Thursday, May 21, 2009

What joys and surprises await in this new day?

Last week I placed a labor epidural in a 16 year old mother to be. She was a very friendly and chatty girl and it was a pleasure to meet her. She shared with me the fact that a number of her friends were near their due dates too. No shame, just matter of fact.

Yesterday I met another 16 year old who was coming to my OR for a diagnostic laparoscopy to determine whether endometriosis was the cause of her pelvic pain. We didn't find any endometriosis, just pid (pelvic inflammatory disease). Oh and this delightful young women, with her cheerful outlook, also tested positive for chlamydia and GC (gonorrhea).
Welcome to the real world rel.



Anonymous Hundred and one things said...

What worries me the most is the lack of shame.

5:06 AM  
Blogger paisley said...

i will admit i was a bit of a wild child,, ,but i had been pregnant and had the clap by the time i was 18 and was not shamed by either predicament... and that was back in the 70's... so maybe we haven't come as far as we would like to think we have.....

8:39 AM  
Blogger willow said...

So very sad.

On the subject of epidurals, it scared me to death when they couldn't get the needle out of my back, as I was delivering my third child. Have you even seen this happen?

9:55 AM  
Blogger Churlita said...

I worked in an ob/gun clinic and saw a 12 year old pregnant girl. her mom was 26. do the math. how scary is that? If nothing else, it scares me that these girls aren't at least making the boys (who are just as much at fault)wear condoms.

4:40 PM  
Blogger Puss-in-Boots said...

Our kids are growing up and finding out about sex way too early and this is the result. As you say, it's so sad.

10:04 PM  
Anonymous Alison said...

This is why we need comprehensive sex education in schools.

1:25 AM  
Anonymous Karen said...

I have a teenage daughter and worry about things like this happening to her. I have talked to her about sex and the consequences. I keep the lines of communication open between her and I and can only hope she is honest with me.

1:09 PM  
Blogger JP/deb said...

A very sobering thought ... I'm going to talk more to my 13 year old about this.


8:56 AM  
Blogger Wanderlust Scarlett said...

I am sick.

It's upbringing and lifestyle, I think.
It's not enough parenting, too many freedoms in those rebellious years, WAY too much sexual inuendo pumped into media and marketing, and a serious loss of morality within about the last two generations.

Sad... Rel, very sad.

What can be done to change it?

Scarlett & Viaggiatore

6:16 PM  
Anonymous FS said...

From my experience, I believe this is happening not purely because of one aspect but a combination of issues; however I believe there's one issue that sticks out the most.

Wanting to feel special or loved.
I think too many kids now days feel a need for these things and think that having sex and having children are the way to get this. If kids of today had better self-esteem, they wouldn’t feel the need to seek out the approval of a sexual partner so young.

To achieve this, this needs to start at home, parents need to make more time for their children- not shower them with gifts all the time but spend Time with them. If only this is done then at least they have a fighting chance of having some self-respect.

I also think that Sex-ed needs to get more realistic in school, show kids what Actually happens if they get pregnant, get STI's etc, sex ed is too sugar coated. Yes it 'teaches' them how to have safe sex, but I don’t think they present the 'why' they should only practice safe sex in a realistic way that actually puts kids off doing anything differently.

I have other ideas on this subject but I think the main point lies with parents providing the right support and environment for their children- and this doesn't mean letting kids get away with everything or having anything they've ever wanted, but helping instil their sense of self worth will see them through adolescence with more confidence and self-respect.

7:06 AM  

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